Party Tips

01.23.2011

I have to say, this weekend was pretty amazing. On Friday, I was invited to a black light birthday party of one of my brotherÂ’s friends at the University of Cincinnati. What made this even better was the fact that my very best friend was going to meet me up there and party with us. It was nice seeing my brother, because it was a while since I had seen him and caught up about things going on in our lives.

We headed to his friends’ house around 7:30 in order to help clean and set up for the party. Around 10 o’clock people started filling up the place. The black lights were on and so were our white clothes so that we would glow. We sang “Happy Birthday” and then the party began.

It was really nice to see my best friend and party with her. We always bring out the best in each other and have a wonderful time.

Now, I feel like there are always some misunderstandings about parties. As a person who does not participate in drinking, I would like to clear some of these misconceptions as well as give you some (hopefully) helpful tips.

1. First of all, you do have to be safe, even if you are not drinking. You should always pay attention to your surroundings, especially when you are walking around at night.

2. Secondly, ALWAYS have a buddy. I’m a strong believer in the buddy system, whether it’s walking to the bathroom together or just in general. You should always keep a good friend in view and designate that you will be “buddies” for the night. You want to make sure that they are a good friend, as I have seen many people left behind by their so-called “buddies.” If this happens to you, don’t walk alone. I repeat, do NOT walk alone.

3. Thirdly, you are not pressured to drink nearly as much as you think you are going to be. I know a lot of people that don’t want to attend parties in fear of being pressured. I can honestly say that I haven’t been pressured. I have been asked if I would like something to drink, but my answer of “No” was acceptable to them. I like to think of it this way: Yes, a lot of guys will try to get you drunk, BUT if you say “no” they’re not going to try too much, because...well, that beer could be theirs. Also, if you simply have some sort of drink in your hand, you will be fine. Even if it’s water. And as another note, you could always lie that you have been drinking. Really, don’t worry about it.

4. Lastly, talk to whoever you can. A lot of people think that you canÂ’t have a nice conversation with a drunk person. But, in reality, those are some of the nicest conversations I have had. Yes, there will be some jerks, but you move on to the next person then. ItÂ’s surprising some of the things you can learn from others and sometimes the person lives right around the corner from your home town.

Overall, I strongly encourage you to go to some parties. IÂ’m not saying that you should be stupid and make bad choices, but I really think that you can learn a lot about yourself. Honestly, if you are trying to figure out who you truly are and where your values stand, a party is one of the best places to discover the answer. For instance, I have learned that I am not easily influenced. I am more confident than I ever thought I would be. My values mean a great deal to me and I know what I am not okay with. Who wouldÂ’ve thought that going to a party can be such a learning experience with of course the added bonus of meeting new people and having a fantastic time!